Expressing Spirituality

It can be easy to think of spirituality simply as participation in a faith community or belonging to a particular religious tradition. Spirituality, however, includes many things outside of those traditionally considered to be “religious.” Because spiritual development involves such things as self-awareness, experiencing significance in one’s sense of the transcendent (which may include an understanding of God or a higher power), and developing a sense of purpose, there are many ways to express spirituality.

• There is no consensus on the relationship between religion and spirituality, and your child may express spirituality outside of a faith tradition. Be open to and encourage your child’s expressions of spirituality, even if they don’t coincide with yours.
• Expressions of spirituality vary widely between individuals; some may take part in community service projects; others attend services at a church, mosque, or synagogue; others may engage in meditation or other means of reflection. No matter how your child expresses his or her spirituality, offer support and encouragement.
• Although participation in a faith community is not required for spiritual development, it can be very beneficial. By involving your child in a faith community, you give him or the opportunity to connect with other youth and adults, to further his community involvement, and to see many different expressions of spirituality that he may connect with.
• Older children often seek out adults with deep spiritual commitments—support this endeavor, even if you do not share those specific commitments. Exposure to different cultures and belief systems can help your child examine and define her own.

• Talk to your child about her or his expressions of spirituality, as well as your own. Talk about how individuals may express their beliefs in many different ways, and encourage your child to think about how to best express her or his spirituality.

No matter how your child expresses her spirituality, support her in it. Whether or not she agrees with your religious or spiritual views, it’s important to foster spiritual development by allowing her to explore different expressions of spirituality and beliefs.