Nothing will close the door of communication between you and your kids faster than a signal that you don’t take their feelings seriously, so be sure to listen. Today their grievance may be something you consider trivial, but you’re building a foundation for them to share the more serious stuff later.
Tip of the Day March 5
Set achievable goals. Nothing helps boost a kid’s confidence like attaining a goal, so think realistically about some of the things they might to accomplish and help them set small, incremental objectives that will get them there.
Tip of the Day March 4
Show an interest in your child’s friends, activities and interests. Even when you’re tired or overwhelmed, make it a point to ask questions, show up at events, and remember the people and things that are important to them.
Tip of the Day March 3
Don’t let your kids give up on something just because it’s difficult. If you do, you may reinforce their fears about not being capable or worse yet, miss the opportunity to teach the importance of perseverance and commitment.
Tip of the Day March 2
If your daughter is a great singer, or your son is a math whiz, tell them! They may already know it, but hearing it from you will do wonders for their self-esteem.
Tip of the Day March 1
Give your kids chores that contribute to the entire household. It’s great that they clean their room, but if they’re old enough, asking them to do the dishes after dinner, or occasionally make breakfast reminds them that they are an important and capable part of a family unit. Get more ideas here.
Tip of the Day February 29
Have regular family meetings to discuss concerns, plan events, and assign tasks. If you’re finding family meetings chaotic, try something new. Take turns leading the meetings to see if it improves your family’s workflow and communication.
Tip of the Day February 28
Support your kids’ connections to trusted adults outside the family. Having another place to air their concerns, receive support and get affirmation can be a great asset.
Tip of the Day February 27
Writing letters to our kids can be great way to carefully put our ideas to them. Take the time to consider what you have to say, be affirming and express concern carefully. They will listen to us at our best – over and over as they re-read it. Who knows, they may even write back!
Tip of the Day February 26
Remember to nurture your own spark. Parents can get caught up in focusing on their kids alone. It’s good for your kids to see you pursuing interests and relationships in addition to them. And it’s good for you to keep building a life for the day your kids move up and out on their own.