Find out if there is another adult who has connected well with your own child. Have they bonded over sports? Do they like the same music? If you can afford it, buy them tickets to attend an event together.
Tip of the Day August 24
Be ready for unexpected moments of connection. When your child or another young person starts to talk about something personal, drop everything to pay attention.
Tip of the Day August 23
Bring your child and one of his or her friends to a museum, concert, or another cultural event that welcomes children.
Tip of the Day August 22
Remain firm about your expectations as your kids grow, but expect bumps along the way. As kids change schools, go through puberty, and cope with difficulty, their enthusiasm for school and doing well can wane. Be patient but continue to have high expectations.
Tip of the Day August 21
Think of your teenager as an adult in training. Teach him or her practical things like how to change a tire, prepare a meal, or create a monthly budget.
Tip of the Day August 20
Give children freedom to make their own choices (as appropriate for their age) so that they feel they have some control over their lives.
Tip of the Day August 19
Set clear expectations about how you want your child to do in school. This isn’t about putting undue pressure on your child. Instead, it’s about expecting your child to do as well as he or she can.
Tip of the Day August 18
Talk about the value of education. Even if school isn’t always easy, that doesn’t mean that it’s not important. Emphasize how working hard at school will help your kids succeed.
Tip of the Day August 17
When you teach your children about the difference between right and wrong, help them learn to listen to their conscience.
Tip of the Day August 16
Remember intelligence is not fixed: Effort and persistence when facing challenges are important characteristics of a successful student. Tell your child, “smart is not what you are; smart is what you work to become.”