When you need time to concentrate, or for private or serious conversation with someone else, tell your children how long it will take and what you expect from them during that time. When you are finished, let them know they can once again have your attention.
Tip of the Day February 17
Start a “thought sharing” tradition. At a meal, bedtime, or another time when there are few distractions, get in the habit of sharing one thing about your day, something interesting you each thought of, a hope or a dream, or another open-ended topic.
Tip of the Day February 16
Use “active listening” with your children: Ask good questions, paraphrase what they say to make sure you understand, and show that you empathize with what they are saying.
Tip of the Day February 15
If your children aren’t involved in any out-of-school activities, encourage them to try something new. It’s important for young people to stay involved in these types of opportunities, even if they aren’t the “stars of the show.”
Tip of the Day February 14
Praise your child when he or she acts in ways that are caring or responsible. Kids need to hear that you’re proud of them and that they are making good choices (even when you’re not happy with all their choices).
Tip of the Day February 13
Be calm about young love. Be careful not to overreact (and make it a bigger deal than it is) or under react (by dismissing it).
Tip of the Day February 12
Your involvement in school can help your student learn and affect teacher attitudes toward your children, thus creating a more caring school climate.
Tip of the Day February 11
Talk about your hopes and dreams for your child with your partner. The more you can be in sync, the easier it will be to parent your child together.
Tip of the Day February 10
Model and talk about appropriate ways to express love and care. Focus on the relationship aspect of dating with your teen, such as getting to know someone and caring for each other in tender ways, such as holding hands.
Tip of the Day February 9
Don’t overreact when your child lies to you. Young people will lie if they fear your reaction. If you suspect or know that your child is lying, ask, “Why do you think I might be having trouble believing you right now?” In other words, give them the opportunity to tell the truth.