Have regular family meetings to discuss concerns, plan events, and assign tasks. If you’re finding family meetings chaotic, try something new. Take turns leading the meetings to see if it improves your family’s workflow and communication.
Tip of the Day February 28
Support your kids’ connections to trusted adults outside the family. Having another place to air their concerns, receive support and get affirmation can be a great asset.
Tip of the Day February 27
Writing letters to our kids can be great way to carefully put our ideas to them. Take the time to consider what you have to say, be affirming and express concern carefully. They will listen to us at our best – over and over as they re-read it. Who knows, they may even write back!
Tip of the Day February 26
Remember to nurture your own spark. Parents can get caught up in focusing on their kids alone. It’s good for your kids to see you pursuing interests and relationships in addition to them. And it’s good for you to keep building a life for the day your kids move up and out on their own.
Tip of the Day February 24
Planning can become more complicated when multiple households are involved. Consider using an online, shared calendar so everyone can stay informed of additions, changes or potential conflicts to family schedules.
Tip of the Day February 25
Consider involving your kids in activities like educational ventures or clubs designed to support non-traditional families. Having them spend time with others who have a single parent or GLBT parents can allow them to feel understood, as well as giving them a place to ask questions of other folks who know what their unique challenges are. And it may give you an afternoon off now and then!
Tip of the Day February 23
Sometimes kids in divorced or non-traditional families feel different from their peers. Keep a conversation going with them about what (if anything) they feel is unusual, different or “embarrassing” about your family. Gentle, open, non-judgmental conversation – and reminding them of the “new normal” of family life these days – can help them negotiate their experience.
Tip of the Day February 22
Try not to ever speak negatively about your separated or divorced partner. Sharing how you feel with an older child when they ask about the situation can be okay if you are careful to let them know they do not need to agree or take any responsibility for the relationship.
Tip of the Day February 21
Sometimes with visitation needs, kids are away for some traditional holiday times. Work around this by creating your own family traditions. Idea: “Christmas in July”. Take the day off, turn up the AC, put out a fake tree, exchange presents and have a holiday meal together.
Tip of the Day March 23
Focus forward. Reminding your kids repeatedly of things they did wrong can lose its constructive value if it makes them feel badly about themselves. Instead, look ahead and focus on what they can do differently next time.