Don’t let your kids give up on something just because it’s difficult. If you do, you may reinforce their fears about not being capable or worse yet, miss the opportunity to teach the importance of perseverance and commitment.
Tip of the Day March 2
If your daughter is a great singer, or your son is a math whiz, tell them! They may already know it, but hearing it from you will do wonders for their self-esteem.
Tip of the Day March 1
Give your kids chores that contribute to the entire household. It’s great that they clean their room, but if they’re old enough, asking them to do the dishes after dinner, or occasionally make breakfast reminds them that they are an important and capable part of a family unit. Get more ideas here.
Tip of the Day February 29
Have regular family meetings to discuss concerns, plan events, and assign tasks. If you’re finding family meetings chaotic, try something new. Take turns leading the meetings to see if it improves your family’s workflow and communication.
Tip of the Day February 28
Support your kids’ connections to trusted adults outside the family. Having another place to air their concerns, receive support and get affirmation can be a great asset.
Tip of the Day February 27
Writing letters to our kids can be great way to carefully put our ideas to them. Take the time to consider what you have to say, be affirming and express concern carefully. They will listen to us at our best – over and over as they re-read it. Who knows, they may even write back!
Tip of the Day February 26
Remember to nurture your own spark. Parents can get caught up in focusing on their kids alone. It’s good for your kids to see you pursuing interests and relationships in addition to them. And it’s good for you to keep building a life for the day your kids move up and out on their own.
Tip of the Day February 24
Planning can become more complicated when multiple households are involved. Consider using an online, shared calendar so everyone can stay informed of additions, changes or potential conflicts to family schedules.
Tip of the Day February 25
Consider involving your kids in activities like educational ventures or clubs designed to support non-traditional families. Having them spend time with others who have a single parent or GLBT parents can allow them to feel understood, as well as giving them a place to ask questions of other folks who know what their unique challenges are. And it may give you an afternoon off now and then!
Tip of the Day February 23
Sometimes kids in divorced or non-traditional families feel different from their peers. Keep a conversation going with them about what (if anything) they feel is unusual, different or “embarrassing” about your family. Gentle, open, non-judgmental conversation – and reminding them of the “new normal” of family life these days – can help them negotiate their experience.