When a situation spins out of control and you realize you’ve landed in a power struggle, stop! Take a breath. Walk away. Count to 10. Do something to disrupt your part in the struggle. Then, get back on track. If the child misbehaved, restate their choice, the rule, the consequence, and enforce the rule. Get more tips like this one here.
Tip of the Day January 20
Parenting is too much to do alone. It’s not a solo sport. Lean on family and friends. Ask others to be a positive force in your child’s life, help enforce boundaries, as well as do fun things with your child. It’s an “all play”.
Tip of the Day January 19
Set limits and consequences ahead of time with your children so that they know—on the front end—what is acceptable and what is not.
Tip of the Day January 18
When your child makes a bad choice in a new situation, ask questions. Let him answer. Listen and prompt him toward self-discovery and to think: What did I do? Ask: What do you think ____ (an adult he admires) would have done? Discuss what he might do differently next time.
Tip of the Day January 17
Encourage an older sibling to mentor a younger sibling (reading, learning left from right, practicing the piano, basic math) in something they know how to do but the youngster is still learning. Compliment their work together, both learning and teaching.
Tip of the Day January 16
Surround yourself with families you admire. Learn what you want and don’t want to do. Be intentional with the choices you make in managing your family AND with the caring adults around you.
Tip of the Day January 15
Limit tech time. Look for ways to get kids involved in activities that are physical, creative and interactive with others.
Tip of the Day January 14
Make a habit every day to find and praise good behavior and the effort your kids make. Don’t look for “perfect” behavior; praise the effort and encourage practice.
Tip of the Day January 13
When behaviors drive you crazy, give yourself grace. Seek out the wisdom of other parents you admire, try new strategies, and remember: parenting well comes from experience, patience, and positive guidance.
Tip of the Day January 12
Emphasize what the right way is to respond in various situations. When misbehavior happens, say, “This isn’t right. The right way to do this is by . . . “ Once they know right from wrong, and choose the wrong, then discipline.