It’s sometimes tough to transition from making all your children’s decisions for them to letting them make decisions on their own. By providing them with two or three choices that are equally acceptable to you, you’re preparing them for going it alone later and preparing yourself to let go.
Tip of the Day March 19
Encourage your kids to try new things. While your finances may not permit a trip to Thailand, you can foster curiosity about the world by having your kids try new foods or attend cultural festivals happening locally.
Tip of the Day March 18
If you’re raising more than one child, it’s important to celebrate each child’s individuality. One easy way to do this is to organize an activity that you do with them, separate from other members of your family, that’s specific to their interests. Take your little artist to the museum, or go indoor climbing with your resident super-athlete.
Tip of the Day March 17
Tell your kids you love them often. You’ll find that this is easier to do if you’re also behaving in a loving and nurturing manner toward them. By saying it, you remind yourself to live it as well.
Tip of the Day March 16
If siblings, friends or other children seem to be surpassing your child in certain areas, resist the urge to share that observation with them. It will have a negative impact on how your child values herself and make her less motivated, a result that is probably precisely the opposite of what you intended.
Tip of the Day March 15
Allowing your kids to take charge of certain tasks, even if they don’t do them exactly as you would have, builds their self-confidence. Feel free to make your preferences known up front, but don’t re-stack the dishes or refold the laundry once they’ve done it.
Tip of the Day March 14
When you’re tired, overworked or overwhelmed, you may find that it’s easier to give in than to maintain a particular standard or expectation. But by being consistent, you teach your kids the importance of being accountable to themselves and others.
Tip of the Day March 13
Life can get so busy that we sometimes forget that we are part of, and responsible to, a larger community. You can remind your kids (and yourself) of that by getting out of the house and doing things in your neighborhood like helping clean up a park or contributing items to a local shelter.
Tip of the Day March 12
Have you ever seen someone be rude to a waiter, or snap at a store clerk? What did you think of that person? Teach your kids the importance of treating people well. One sign of a person’s character is whether they treat people well, even when they don’t have to.
Tip of the Day March 11
Talk it over when things don’t go exactly as your kids may have hoped. Some of your kids’ efforts will be less than successful. Rather than downplay the experience, try to find a lesson in there; there almost always is one.