When a child breaks a rule, make sure she understands that the consequence is her choice. If she chooses to break the rule, she is choosing the consequence as well. Remind her that she has a choice.
Tip of the Day January 25
Be consistent in enforcing rules. Help children know they can rely on the boundaries being there. (Eventually they will learn to appreciate the safe environment you are setting!)
Tip of the Day January 24
Explain what will happen if rules are broken in terms your child will understand. Have them state them back in their own words.
Tip of the Day January 23
Encourage kids to “have a happy heart.” Set an expectation for joy in the home and articulate it often.
Tip of the Day January 22
Angry? Frustrated with your child? Try lowering your voice. Speak quietly and slowly, and in a quiet place. Lowering your temperature will help lower theirs.
Tip of the Day January 21
When a situation spins out of control and you realize you’ve landed in a power struggle, stop! Take a breath. Walk away. Count to 10. Do something to disrupt your part in the struggle. Then, get back on track. If the child misbehaved, restate their choice, the rule, the consequence, and enforce the rule. Get more tips like this one here.
Tip of the Day January 20
Parenting is too much to do alone. It’s not a solo sport. Lean on family and friends. Ask others to be a positive force in your child’s life, help enforce boundaries, as well as do fun things with your child. It’s an “all play”.
Tip of the Day January 19
Set limits and consequences ahead of time with your children so that they know—on the front end—what is acceptable and what is not.
Tip of the Day January 18
When your child makes a bad choice in a new situation, ask questions. Let him answer. Listen and prompt him toward self-discovery and to think: What did I do? Ask: What do you think ____ (an adult he admires) would have done? Discuss what he might do differently next time.
Tip of the Day January 17
Encourage an older sibling to mentor a younger sibling (reading, learning left from right, practicing the piano, basic math) in something they know how to do but the youngster is still learning. Compliment their work together, both learning and teaching.