Sometimes tweens and teens need to talk through problems and seek advice from people other than mom or dad. While you don’t want to encourage secretiveness, try to make sure that your child has other caring, responsible adults in his or her life to talk to.
Tip of the Day April 23
Communication is as much about how we listen as what we say. Listening non-judgmentally to our children as they mature and have more complicated things to say to us can be difficult. But, the better we listen, the more likely our children will be to open up.
Tip of the Day April 22
When sass and backtalk enter your child’s repertoire (and they will!) calmly but firmly let him know, “In our family we don’t talk to each other that way.” Then be sure to follow that rule yourself!
Tip of the Day April 21
Find a natural place for regular, pressure-free check-ins with your child. Some families find that conversation flows smoothly while traveling in the car. Others find it easy to chat while on a walk or a run, while washing dishes, or even during commercial breaks.
Tip of the Day April 20
Model good communication with your child by having “conversations” with her even before she can speak: talk, ask questions, pause where you would naturally. As she gets older and joins in, remember to make eye contact, listen, and ask questions. Sit down to “chat” every day.