Building the Support Assets
Support—Young people need to be surrounded by people who love, appreciate, and accept them. They need to spend time in places where people care about them.
As a parent, you are already one of your child’s key asset builders. Here are tips on how you can take your parenting to the next level by intentionally focusing on the six Support Assets: family support, positive family communication, other adult relationships, caring neighborhood, caring school climate, and parent involvement in schooling.
Tips for . . .
- all parents
- You have a direct role in supporting your children and facilitating positive family communication.
- Get to know your children’s friends and make your home welcoming so that kids want to come to your home.
- Your involvement in school can help your student learn and affect teacher attitudes toward your children, thus creating a more caring school climate.
- Your connection to other adults and other people’s kids in your neighborhood affects your children’s experience of a caring neighborhood.
- Your choices about adults with whom you connect your children, such as friends, teachers, and youth workers, affects your children’s experiences of positive relationships with other adults.
- parents with children ages birth to 5
- Look at children when you speak to them. Eye contact is a simple way to let them know you care.
- Read all childcare or school newspapers, notes, and printed announcements posted or sent home. Respond quickly to requests.
- For parents with children ages 6 to 9
- When you and your child disagree, be respectful and let her or him know it’s okay for people in families to have different opinions and that you still care.
- Make mealtime talking time. Consider having each person take a turn answering a question or telling something about the day.
- For parents with children ages 10 to 15
- Stay involved in your kids’ schooling during the middle school years—a time when most parents pull back.
- Be willing to talk during times that are comfortable for your children, such as while riding or driving, or on a walk. Sometimes not having to make constant direct eye contact can make the conversation flow better.
- Allow your child to express differences of opinions of various subjects. Kids feel supported when they know you value their opinions.
- parents with children ages 16 to 18
- Keep in mind that it’s not true that all kids want their parents to stop being affectionate with them when they become teenagers. Ask your kids what’s comfortable for them and then support them in ways they appreciate best.
- Attend all school conferences.
- Help your teenagers identify the passions and interests that get them excited, such as playing a musical instrument, participating in a sport, or planning a creative get-together for their friends.
- Spend time each week with each of your teenagers individually.