Getting to Know Your Child's Friends
One of the best ways that you can positively influence your child’s friendships is to stay involved. By getting to know your child’s friends, you can gain some insight into the relationships that your child is involved in—and keep an eye on those relationships to make sure that they stay positive. There’s a fine line between being involved and being nosy, and your kids may complain that you don’t give them enough space, but it’s important to maintain a presence in your child’s life and in their friendships.
Create an Inviting Home- Make your home a place where your children’s friends like to hang out. (Snacks and soft drinks in the fridge always help!) Get to know them while they are relaxed and open to conversation.
Know Their Names- Learn the names of all of your child’s friends. Some parents list their child’s friends in the family address book along with the names of their parents and contact information.
Do: Monitor how your child reacts to you getting to know his friends. Some kids are okay with their parents getting to know their friends’ names, but they may not be too happy if they become overly friendly.
Know Their Parents- Get to know the parents or guardians of your children’s friends. You will often find that they share your values and priorities and that you can work together to ensure that the friendships are positive for everyone.
Attend Their Events- Whenever possible, attend school events. Ask your child to introduce you to her friends. Spend a few moments asking her friends about their likes and dislikes. Show that you’re interested in getting to know them.
Vacation With Them- Young teenagers often don’t like to spend much time with their families, so allow them to invite a friend along during family activities. This can make family getaways and reunions more appealing, and it will give you the chance to get to know your children’s friends.