Helping Other Kids Avoid Alcohol

Parents often feel alone or isolated in their efforts to deal with tough issues such as underage alcohol use. Connect with other families to have an even bigger influence on your children and the children in your community.

  • Get to know your child’s friends. If you get the feeling that one of your child’s friends could be having a bad influence, invite the friend to spend time with you and your child together so you can have a positive influence on the relationship.
  • Let your kids know that you’re always available to help them (and their friends, if need be) out of a high-pressure situation. Offer a “no questions asked until later” ride home from any party, or a pick-up at the end of the block—and emphasize that keeping your child out of a drunk driver’s car is your first concern.
  • Keep track of where your teenager goes and who he is with. If he goes to a party, check in advance whether an adult will be actively present and whether alcohol will be available.
  • Never purchase or provide alcohol for young people, no matter what the occasion.

Raising healthy, responsible kids takes many involved adults. By getting other adults involved in your child’s life—and being a part of other children’s lives—you can make sure that all kids have the support they need to resist underage alcohol use and other negative behaviors.

 

Comments

It all starts from you! If you are the drinking member, no matter how hard you’ll try, your child will be alcoholic too!

Understand, most, and that is MOST teenagers lie, like adults. Getting the truth out of them is worse than pulling teeth! They WILL LIE about where they are, where they have been, what they have been doing! As soon as they are with their“peers” they become the son or daughter you never knew but feared. Please, do check up on your children! Woe to the “adult” that purchases alcohol for them.

I have recently experienced the heartbreak of watching a 15 year old “ nice kid” fall over drunk in a “Friend’s” yard, he was unsuspecting my watching from my car directly across the street. I was there due to a suspicion that he wasn’t quite telling the truth as to his activities at a “sleep-over”. He got up, and fell down again, with his “friends” laughing at him. Needless to say, I approached the house, right after they all went back inside, and knocked on the door to ask for him. After much scurrying about in the house, my “precious teenager” appeared, quite soused, wet, red-faced, and unable to walk straight. When I asked what had he had to consume, I was met with blank stares from his “friends”. I then remarked that they had best tell me before I run him to the emergency clinic to find out, they told me….“uh, er, only a beer…or two”

Ask any police officer, it’s always, only a couple beers. Later I had asked him where did they get the beer, and who bought it? He didn’t want to tell me, and I even received a few “F” words from his “sweet mouth that he kisses his mother with”.

Needless to say, I am also quite disgusted. Along with the restrictions…Laptop gone, cell phone gone, no more “sleep-overs”, no more of his “I am going to see a friend” he is also going to apologize to the “parents” of the house (who, obviously, were out of town. Apologize for drinking at their home, and falling down drunk in their front yard. I hope this action will also alert those parents that they could have had severe consequence due to their own responsibilities.

Maybe I should have called the local police to come to that residence that night.
Yes, we are looking for appropriate counseling too!

Parent in Ohio

Dear Parent in Ohio,

Consequences are natural, necessary and needed for helping our children see how some choices are not best and even life threatening.

I guess my encouragement to you would be this:

1) Seek to earn your child’s trust. If they cannot talk to you about their desire to drink for fear of your response…then they will find someone else to confide in. Hopefully that is an adult who shares your convictions. However, many times it is their peers.

2) Seek also to earn the trust of the other youth. If you are simply known as “that mom”...the one who is always on the lookout and are never known as the woman/mom that they can come to/confide in or know you have their best interests in mind then you have no chance of speaking life and empowerment into their lives.

3) As a father of two teen boys myself I understand consequences that take everything from phones to video games and sometimes EVERYTHING that my boys enjoy. BUT I also realize that taking all of this does not get to the root of why my sons sometimes make the choices they do. The latter I would say is MUCH more important than the former.

Peace.

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