Frequent Questions and Concerns about School Problems

My child is failing one of her classes—does this mean she’s a bad student?

While you should be concerned that your child is doing poorly in class, you certainly shouldn’t give up hope. Just because your child is struggling in one class (or several classes) does not mean she’s a bad student. There is usually an underlying cause of your child’s difficulties that can be addressed to help her get back on track. Talk to her teachers and see what you can do to help. Maybe she just needs some one-on-one time with a tutor, or a little extra help with her homework.

I know my child is behaving badly in school, but I hesitate to talk to a counselor because I don’t want him to have a record with the school.

Just because you or your child talks to a school counselor about behavior issues doesn’t mean your child will be labeled a “bad kid.” It’s important to get your child the help he needs to succeed in school. If you feel very uncomfortable speaking with someone at your child’s school, you can see a counselor in another setting or talk to another trusted adult, such as a clergy person. No matter who you decide to ask for help, it’s important to do so quickly so you can begin addressing the problems your child is having.

My child gets into a little trouble every once in a while at school—is it really that big of a deal?

This depends mostly on why your child is getting in trouble, as well as how regularly. If your child doesn’t turn in his or her homework a few times each school year, you probably don’t have anything to worry about. If you hear about your son or daughter teasing another child once every week, you should talk to your child and his or her teacher—especially if your child is bullying other children.