Your Guide to a Peaceful Household
Let's face it. Conflicts are inevitable. Kids have different ideas, different solutions, and different ways to approach problems. Because of this, resolving conflicts peacefully is a key skill that kids need to succeed.1 (It’s also one of the 40 Developmental Assets.2) As kids grow up, it’s important that they learn how to resolve conflicts peacefully (without giving in) and how to get along well with others.
Conflict resolution skills are gained by experience and practice—so help your child start building these crucial abilities by engaging in peaceful conflict resolution at home. If your child is able to work through problems well at home, she will have an advantage when it comes to conflicts at school (and beyond).
Did You Know?
- The number one way young people resolve conflicts is by fighting.3 Most kids say that if someone hit or pushed them for no reason, they’d hit or push right back.5
- Teenage guys are twice as likely as teenage girls to say they would try to hurt someone worse than that person had hurt them.5
- Kids who bully others tend to have difficulties in their relationships with parents and friends.6
- Younger teens (those in sixth grade) are almost four times as likely as twelfth graders to talk to a teacher or another adult if they’re having trouble resolving a conflict.7
- High-school seniors are almost twice as likely as seventh graders to talk to the person they’re in conflict with and try to work out their differences.8
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1. Peter Benson, All Kids Are Our Kids: What Communities Must Do to Raise Caring and Responsible Children and Adolescents (San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 2006), 55.
2. Ibid.
3. Search Institute, Developmental Assets: A Profile of Your Youth, Executive Summary, (Minneapolis: Search Institute, 2005), unpublished report, Appendix A-18.
4. Ibid.
5. Ibid.
6. ScienceDaily, “Children Who Bully Also Have Problems with Other Relationships,” ScienceDaily, March 26, 2008.
7. Search Institute, ibid.
8. Ibid.
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I need help for my 15 year old son he has stolen numerous times from us and lied,bad temper and used drugs we can’t afford any program and he needs help please
I tryed to ground him but he just takes off and i call 911 say he ran away and all they can do is bring him home I can’t control him I have tryed
I would suggest an inpatient treatment plan of some sort because once he’s 16 you’ve lost him. call his pediatrician and tell him or her the situation. they can suggest alot more than the police. he is seeking bad attention.
Is there a local church that offers a youth program? hanging out with with kids in a youth group could be beneficial, because he might be hanging out with bad crowds. It’s hard work raising teens isn’t it? There is no book that can help us. My religion has been very helpful in getting me through these tough times.Hope this helps.
Hi I work in an institute for helping unfortunate children in poor neighbourhood We have children facing lots of challenges like being abandoned by their parents or having an addict parent, most of them steel I need help in making them understand that this is wrong . I feel bad about not being capable to save them don’t know how to deal with this Any suggestions?
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