By: Vicki Bohling
I’m an early morning person – always have been. I love the whole fresh-start thing and the quiet that comes from being the first one up. My kids are nocturnal young adults now, but when they were little they were downright chicken-like in their sleep habits. I swore they could hear my eyelids open.
That was a tough stretch for me--those days when I felt propelled from my horizontal state straight into fourth-gear-caregiver mode (with someone else’s foot on the gas pedal!). While my mornings were on "temporary loan" to my children, I had to get creative in finding some quiet space in the day to think about life without actually being in the middle of it. Forget candlelit dinners and bubble baths – it was the drive time to and from work that saved me on most days…and the occasional chance to lollygag in the produce section at 10 p.m. all by myself in search of the perfect head of lettuce.
Self-care is not selfish. Just ask those flight attendants who are always telling us to put the oxygen masks on ourselves first. Whether you are raising tiny tots or young adults, there are some things you can do to claim some self amidst the sacrifice:
When your children are little…
As your kids get older, check out A Moment's Peace for Parents of Teens for a recharging dose of daily time-out.
When you’ve got tweens and teens…
1. Five Minutes Peace by Jill Murphy, 1999, Puffin.
2. CrazyBusy: Overstretched, Overbooked, and About to Snap! Strategies for Handling Your Fast-Paced Life by Edward M. Hallowell, 2007, Ballantine Books.
4. Image via lednichenkoolga on Flick'r.