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Three Girls? ‘I Feel Sorry for Their Father’

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Wed, 2014-11-19 11:17
Almost everywhere we go— a hike on a mountain trail, a restaurant, an art museum-- unsolicited comments about the same sex of my children follow.

Pregnant With a Boy? Even in 2014, Some Call That ‘Lucky’

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Wed, 2014-11-19 11:16
I was pregnant: I didn’t want to engage people in a discussion on gender. I wanted to take a nap. Still, I was alarmed to hear repeatedly that it was somehow preferable to have a boy instead of a girl.

Tip of the Day November 9

ParentFurther RSS Feeds - Wed, 2014-11-19 08:34

Talk about how bad things happen to people. Every person, at some point in life, will struggle with a difficult situation. What matters is how you react and work through the difficulty.

‘He’s Gone.’ A Daddy, Deployed

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Tue, 2014-11-18 10:40
In this moment, just after their father has been deployed, I can't safeguard their hearts; I am unable to spare these tears. It's a powerless feeling, before the sun is up.

Tip of the Day November 8

ParentFurther RSS Feeds - Tue, 2014-11-18 08:32

Be clear about what’s really funny and what’s not. As kids develop a sense of humor, they’ll push the boundaries. Be clear about what’s inappropriate and why.

Even the Democratic Caucus Can Fail to Accommodate Pregnancy

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Mon, 2014-11-17 15:48
Although it is primarily Democrats and President Obama who continue to push for the Pregnant Workers Fairness Act, a Democratic representative who is pregnant cannot get an exception on Democratic Caucus voting rules.

Quandary: Between Unknown Cousins and the Children’s Table, Thanksgiving Can Be Hard for Kids

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Mon, 2014-11-17 13:08
Now is the moment to prepare children for Thanksgiving: show pictures of past gatherings, remind them of the names that go with faces and talk about things like interrupting, playing with younger cousins, new foods and appreciating gifts but not expecting them.

Tip of the Day November 7

ParentFurther RSS Feeds - Mon, 2014-11-17 08:31

Encourage your kids to walk in another’s shoes.

Tip of the Day November 6

ParentFurther RSS Feeds - Sun, 2014-11-16 08:34

Whenever possible, attend school events. Ask your child to introduce you to her friends. Show that you’re interested in getting to know them.

Lessons in Living While Dying, From Pop

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Sun, 2014-11-16 07:19
My kids have learned a new vocabulary, including words like lymphoma, chemotherapy, radiation, tumor and bone marrow. But they have also learned something important about being flexible, helping out, keeping a sense of humor and taking care of their elders.

Tip of the Day November 5

ParentFurther RSS Feeds - Sat, 2014-11-15 08:35

If you get the feeling that one of your child’s friends could be having a bad influence, invite the friend to spend time with you and your child together so you can have a positive influence on the relationship.

Cooking More Tacos and Looking for Recipes for Leftover Oatmeal

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Fri, 2014-11-14 14:38
Chicken and dumplings. Shake and Bake pork chops. Baked potatoes. If it weren't for the night we're having chorizo, I'd be pretty sure I'd turned into my mother.

Dear Dr. Psych Mom: I’m Almost a Parent Myself, and My Parents Are Smothering Me

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Fri, 2014-11-14 12:41
I am 30 years old, married and pregnant with our first child. My parents’ overprotectiveness worries me a lot, especially now that I’m going to be a mom.

Tip of the Day November 4

ParentFurther RSS Feeds - Fri, 2014-11-14 08:33

Know that teaching kids responsibility takes a long time. Don’t expect sudden miracles. Continue to talk and teach about responsibility as your child grows.

Bittersweet Sixteen

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Fri, 2014-11-14 08:02
There are lots of milestones as kids move through adolescence: 10, when you enter double digits; 13 when you become a teenager; 18 when you finish high school. But when you are a kid with a driver’s license and access to a car, 16 is a game changer.

Your Turn: A Weekend Thread, Open for Comments

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Fri, 2014-11-14 07:55
Welcome to Motherlode’s weekly open thread. Do you have thoughts about the news this week, and how it affects families? A question to ask? A rant to share? This is your place. Go.

Adoptees Like Me ‘Flip the Script’ on the Pro-Adoption Narrative

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Thu, 2014-11-13 13:19
I don’t know how to solve the broader problems with adoption, or even my own. But I’m relieved that more adoptees are finding a way to talk about the reality: not all adoptions end in rainbows and bubbly baby smiles.

To A.P. or Not to A.P., That Is the Question

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Thu, 2014-11-13 10:49
Advanced Placement courses can be a real boon to students motivated by intellectual curiosity and a love of learning. But for students looking to please their parents or for those in pursuit of transcript padding and other false academic idols, A.P. courses can be an unpleasant and unhealthy slog.

Tip of the Day November 3

ParentFurther RSS Feeds - Thu, 2014-11-13 08:34

Give kids the chance to tell the truth. Instead of accusing, ask: Do you think it might be hard for me to believe what you just told me?

When All Else Fails, Embryo Adoption Offers Hope

Motherlode Blog Feeds - Wed, 2014-11-12 13:59
After four years of infertility and many failures, this little baby popsicle of an embryo was our best hope at finally becoming parents.
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