It’s important to be involved as a family in events or activities, even if you are separated or divorced. If possible, this could mean setting aside differences and attending your child’s performance or school conference together.
Teach children about integrity in simple ways. For example, explain, “When someone thanks you for doing something you didn’t do, it’s important to say so. You can say, ‘Thanks for thanking me, but my brother did it.’”
Be willing to apologize to your parenting partner when it’s appropriate. If your child was within earshot of an argument between your partner and you or witnessed negative behavior, let them hear the apology as well.
Regularly make a point of saying something positive to your co-parent about his or her parenting techniques. Supporting each other is “key” to good parenting.
When you need time to concentrate, or for private or serious conversation with someone else, tell your children how long it will take and what you expect from them during that time. When you are finished, let them know they can once again have your attention.
Start a “thought sharing” tradition. At a meal, bedtime, or another time when there are few distractions, get in the habit of sharing one thing about your day, something interesting you each thought of, a hope or a dream, or another open-ended topic.
Use “active listening” with your children: Ask good questions, paraphrase what they say to make sure you understand, and show that you empathize with what they are saying.
If your children aren’t involved in any out-of-school activities, encourage them to try something new. It’s important for young people to stay involved in these types of opportunities, even if they aren’t the “stars of the show.”
Praise your child when he or she acts in ways that are caring or responsible. Kids need to hear that you’re proud of them and that they are making good choices (even when you’re not happy with all their choices).