Share stories with your kids about what life was like for you as a young person (dating, school, family, friendships, etc.). Talking about these things may show that you have an understanding of what life is like for them.
Schedule a monthly family movie night. Take turns picking films, and allow plenty of time for discussion afterward.
Look for opportunities—in the car, while doing chores together, or at the dinner table—to ask questions about your child’s classes and teachers.
Plan and prepare a meal with one of your children. Invite your child’s friend to join you.
If your child is reluctant to talk about school, try talking to her or his teacher; if there is a problem in the classroom, your child’s teacher can fill you in on the details.
Ask your children and their friends to select a service project. Schedule an event where they can all volunteer together.
Ask what your child thinks of school—some have a strong attachment, while others feel uncomfortable or unattached. Ask your son or daughter which part of school is his or her favorite. (Don’t be surprised if your children answer “recess” or “lunch.”)
Find out if there is another adult who has connected well with your own child. Have they bonded over sports? Do they like the same music? If you can afford it, buy them tickets to attend an event together.