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Ask what your child thinks of school—some have a strong attachment, while others feel uncomfortable or unattached. Ask your son or daughter which part of school is his or her favorite. (Don’t be surprised if your children answer “recess” or “lunch.”)
Find out if there is another adult who has connected well with your own child. Have they bonded over sports? Do they like the same music? If you can afford it, buy them tickets to attend an event together.
Be ready for unexpected moments of connection. When your child or another young person starts to talk about something personal, drop everything to pay attention.
Bring your child and one of his or her friends to a museum, concert, or another cultural event that welcomes children.
Remain firm about your expectations as your kids grow, but expect bumps along the way. As kids change schools, go through puberty, and cope with difficulty, their enthusiasm for school and doing well can wane. Be patient but continue to have high expectations.
Think of your teenager as an adult in training. Teach him or her practical things like how to change a tire, prepare a meal, or create a monthly budget.
Give children freedom to make their own choices (as appropriate for their age) so that they feel they have some control over their lives.
Set clear expectations about how you want your child to do in school. This isn’t about putting undue pressure on your child. Instead, it’s about expecting your child to do as well as he or she can.
Talk about the value of education. Even if school isn’t always easy, that doesn’t mean that it’s not important. Emphasize how working hard at school will help your kids succeed.