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Use “active listening” with your children: Ask good questions, paraphrase what they say to make sure you understand, and show that you empathize with what they are saying.
If your children aren’t involved in any out-of-school activities, encourage them to try something new. It’s important for young people to stay involved in these types of opportunities, even if they aren’t the “stars of the show.”
Praise your child when he or she acts in ways that are caring or responsible. Kids need to hear that you’re proud of them and that they are making good choices (even when you’re not happy with all their choices).
Be calm about young love. Be careful not to overreact (and make it a bigger deal than it is) or under react (by dismissing it).
Your involvement in school can help your student learn and affect teacher attitudes toward your children, thus creating a more caring school climate.
By: Becky Post
Search Institute is currently doing a lot of work to help adolescents develop perseverance skills to reach their school and life goals. A precursor to children developing perseverance is executive function, a term that refers to the capacity to control one’s behavior and direct it toward longer-term goals.Blog Image: FiveStar Rating: 0
Talk about your hopes and dreams for your child with your partner. The more you can be in sync, the easier it will be to parent your child together.
Model and talk about appropriate ways to express love and care. Focus on the relationship aspect of dating with your teen, such as getting to know someone and caring for each other in tender ways, such as holding hands.
Don’t overreact when your child lies to you. Young people will lie if they fear your reaction. If you suspect or know that your child is lying, ask, “Why do you think I might be having trouble believing you right now?” In other words, give them the opportunity to tell the truth.
Take kids’ feelings seriously. You may not think it’s a big deal for a sixth grader to fall in love, but it’s a huge deal to your sixth grader. Treat it with the same seriousness as your child does.
Find out how your child likes to be touched. Some enjoy playful touch, such as pillow fights and arm wrestling. Others like hugs and cuddling. Everyone is different.
Find creative ways to stay close when you’re away from your kids, such as sending homemade cookies or drawing pictures.
When children don’t meet their responsibilities, use logical consequences. For example, if a child gets an allowance for cleaning her bedroom, make sure the room is clean before she gets any money.
Practice “hearing” on more than one level: Listen to the words your kids are saying, but also tune in to what they are saying with their tone of voice and body language.
With your partner, present a united front to your kids. Even if you disagree privately, work out your differences so that your kids aren’t aware of them. Watch for your kids trying to get something from one parent without the knowledge of the other.
Encourage your children to pursue their passions, as long as they balance them with school and family time. Performing arts, sports, and other activities can be great, but they can start to take over their lives if their involvement becomes too intense.
Think of touch as another way to communicate with your child. Whenever you pat your child on the shoulder, snuggle up to read with him, or hug him, you’re telling your child that you love him.
Family meetings can be great – or horrible! Learning to work together is worth it, though. Try different formats, trade off leading them, and see if they can improve your family’s workflow and communication.
2 tips for raising successful kids: —> 1. Establish clear boundaries. 2. Enforce consequences for not abiding by them.
Develop a network of friends who are willing to step in and “co-parent” on occasion (babysit, pick up a kid from school, grab an item at the store, etc.). It takes a village!