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When your child comes to you with a conflict, don’t do all the problem solving yourself. Encourage him or her to develop solutions. (Intervention may be appropriate, of course, if there is a danger of physical injury.)
Continue to show affection to teenagers by spending time with them—even if you’re not doing or talking about anything special.
Present your kids with a variety of options for activities and help them think about which ones best fit their interests.
Start a conversation with your family about communication. Do you all speak positively to each other? Do you trust each other and talk openly? What can you do to improve communication?
When you and your child disagree, do or say something to show that you still care.
Check in with your partner (and yourself!) periodically to assess whether you are balancing your work and family time the way you want to. List your priorities to help you be realistic about the things you value most.
Help your children practice coping skills when difficult situations arise.
Find ways to teach your children about their cultural heritage, such as through stories or songs.
Point out when your child is making good decisions regarding friendships and positive choices.
Allow young children to make simple choices, such as wearing black socks or red socks.
Set aside one or two nights each week when all family members commit to not scheduling activities outside of the home.
Avoid comparing your children with each other or with kids outside your family.
Set clear limits on your children’s technology use, and make sure that your kids know the consequences for going over the limits.
Ask your child what her or his goals are. Help your child think of how time spent on different activities helps or hinders efforts to reach those goals.
Display your kids’ artwork in your home.
Too often when we’re upset, we focus all of our energy on what we want to say, what we want to teach. Take time to listen to your child.
Whenever you talk with other parents, be sure to tell them what you like about their kids.
Set aside some informal time each day for your family to talk with no distractions, such as a family dinner.
Create traditions with your kids and keep them.
By: Dr. Gene Roehlkepartain
Setting expectations for our kids is an ongoing challenge for parents. On the one hand, it’s easy to communicate what we expect. Yet that doesn't necessarily go far enough.Blog Image: FiveStar Rating: 0