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Homework’s Emotional Toll on Students and Families

Wed, 2014-03-12 19:24
Homework dominates the evening for many families, even those with young children. All that time hitting the books (and arguing about hitting the books) takes an emotional toll on parents and students.

Changes at Motherlode: Living the Family Dynamic

Wed, 2014-03-12 10:50
The Motherlode blog has a new look and a new virtual home at The Times, but maintains the same goal: to cover the ways our families affect us, and the ways the news affects our families.

A Sister’s Love, Not Tempered by Expectations

Tue, 2014-03-11 21:54
A mother and filmmaker captures her daughter's unreserved love for a brother born with cerebral palsy.

No Questions About I.V.F. in Israel

Tue, 2014-03-11 13:59
I had grown so used to the need to justify my choices about fertility treatments in the United States. In Israel, so many things were just assumed. Of course you want children. Of course!

Choosing a Preschool: Order Amid Chaos, or Structure Above All?

Tue, 2014-03-11 11:25
My husband and I sometimes found ourselves on opposite sides of questions around structure and child-rearing, and our emotional legacies accompanied us on every preschool visit. Would our daughter thrive amid chaos, or order — or either?

The Cleft-Lip Smile I Never Knew I’d Miss

Sun, 2014-03-09 08:21
I love the face my son was born with, cleft lip and palate and all. I'm certain we did the right thing by correcting it, but I ache as I miss his triangular "before" smile.

Whose Anxiety Is It?

Fri, 2014-03-07 10:25
What does a parent — who happens to be a mental health reporter — do when she's concerned about her son? Dives headfirst into the D.S.M., of course. He could have Social Anxiety Disorder. Or maybe Social Phobia. Perhaps Generalized Anxiety Disorder? Or he could just be shy.

Like the Common Core? Then You’ll Like the New SAT

Thu, 2014-03-06 15:41
Both the Common Core standards and the changes to the SAT exam are based on good intentions. They're also riddled with hidden motivations and paths to unintended consequences, and that makes them hard to see clearly.

A Daughter, Her Dad, and the Debate Over Pricey Teen Volunteer Trips

Thu, 2014-03-06 09:37
Pippa Biddle, a 21-year-old who has gone on many international volunteer trips, thinks most of them are a waste of time. Should parents let their own teenagers go?

Raising, and Understanding, the Class Clown

Wed, 2014-03-05 17:16
Making people laugh makes my son feel good, and feeling good is better than feeling uncomfortable when you don't know what to do or how to do it. I know, because I do the same thing.

How Can I ‘Talk to My Kids About Vaping’ if I Don’t Really Know What That Means?

Wed, 2014-03-05 15:25
I thought I needed to talk to my children about e-cigarettes, but I don't even have the name right. In fact, I don't even know the right verb.

It’s Harder to Age in Hollywood. Where Is It Harder to Raise Kids?

Tue, 2014-03-04 17:02
Hollywood makes going to extremes to maintain even the false illusion of a youthful face seem natural. Do some parts of the country push us to similar extremes when it comes to raising families?

Learning the Rules of the Preschool Application Game

Tue, 2014-03-04 11:11
In the world of elite Manhattan preschool applications, you have to find a way to play the game without letting the results matter too much — to you, or to your child.

How the ‘Trophy for Just Showing Up’ Is Earned

Sun, 2014-03-02 08:57
The participation trophy may be considered a sorry relic of the self-esteem movement. But to me, it represents a season of struggle.

Getting Up in the Night Is Your Wife’s Job

Fri, 2014-02-28 10:41
When I complained to my mother about how little sleep I was getting when my oldest son was an infant, she asked me why I'd get up in the night — that, she said, was my wife's job. Six years later, I'm still getting up in the night, but now I'd give her a different answer.

Waiting for Disney’s First Gay Teenager

Thu, 2014-02-27 13:08
Whenever a teen crush plot line is enacted on any of the many teen sitcom programs designed for maximum pre-teen appeal, the path to true love may take many agonizing twists and turns, but the "love" will be straight every time.

A Lesson on the Common Core

Thu, 2014-02-27 10:17
The state standards have been in the works since 2009 and are now in place at public schools all over the country. But many parents remain confused about what that means.

Older Fathers: Assessing the Risks

Wed, 2014-02-26 17:51
In the most comprehensive study to date of paternal age and offspring mental health, researchers found that “children born to middle-aged men are more likely than those born to younger fathers to develop any of a range of mental difficulties.” But as with most such research, this investigation comes with many caveats.

The Picky Eater Plan: 12 Ideas to Take Back the Dinner Table

Wed, 2014-02-26 14:23
If a child's eating habits are causing trouble at your dinner table, try these ideas to help you return the family meal focus to conversation and togetherness rather than battles over whether young Sally will eat "just one bite."

Need to Fund School Programs? Just Sell Your Kids’ Clothes

Wed, 2014-02-26 13:31
A website that allows parents to fund a school's "extra" educational programs by selling their children's' "gently used" clothing highlights just how askew our system has become.