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One Boy, 17 Official Incident Reports and a Better Kind of Discipline

Wed, 2014-10-29 13:42
Everyone wants kids to be safe in school — even us parents of the "bad" kids. But punitive approaches have high costs: Instead of being helped, misbehaving kids are pushed out. Schools need to try something else.

What to Do When Your Daughter Gets Her Period, Too Young or Right on Time

Wed, 2014-10-29 13:02
If you're the parent of a girl, inevitably at some point, she will emerge from the bathroom or come home from school and inform you (not in these words) that her menstrual cycle has begun. Be ready.

How Col. Jeanette McMahon, Retired Military Widow, Does It

Tue, 2014-10-28 11:35
Right after my husband's death, we were all struggling. Now, with two of my sons out of high school and only one living at home, I can finally think about what to do next.

When the Diagnosis Is Rare, Parents May Know More Than Professionals

Tue, 2014-10-28 11:02
It’s fine for parents to have more expertise than the pediatrician. In fact, sometimes it’s necessary.

A Baby Born Exactly According to Plan, a Thousand Miles From Home

Tue, 2014-10-28 09:20
Chances are good that Omaha won't matter to my new daughter the way it does to me. But no matter what, it will always be a part of her life story.

Schools With No Playgrounds Teach Kids Not to Play

Mon, 2014-10-27 10:37
When we provide our children with no time or space to play, first graders play anyway. By third grade, in some places, they think they know better.

Weekly Quandary: Does the Introverted Preschooler Need ‘Work’?

Mon, 2014-10-27 09:17
Should a reader help her child "work" on taking pleasure in being with others as well as "exploring/playing by himself" or let him be?

‘Don’t Expect Dinner.’

Sun, 2014-10-26 12:03
On Monday of my third week back at work after our son was born, I came home and found my husband sipping a beer with a frown, a sauce-stained dish in front of him, and no dinner for me.

Turn Your Princess-Obsessed Toddler Into a Feminist in Eight Easy Steps

Fri, 2014-10-24 11:52
Imposing a Women's Studies Curriculum on your Disney Princess. Someday she'll thank you!

Eating Chinese Takeout and Dreaming of Brisket

Fri, 2014-10-24 09:16
Last week, dinner did not go as planned. But having the plan still helped.

Preparing a Child to Own a Mobile Phone — But Not Always Use It

Fri, 2014-10-24 08:27
Having a phone can create a compulsion to do something when doing nothing is so often the better choice.

Your Turn: A Weekend Thread, Open for Comments

Fri, 2014-10-24 07:19
Welcome to Motherlode’s weekly open thread. Do you have thoughts about the news this week, and how it affects families? A question to ask? A rant to share? This is your place. Go.

Looking at Soccer’s Concussion Risk, and Asking It to Change

Thu, 2014-10-23 14:35
Talking to kids about personal safety is like talking about retirement planning. We can't expect them not to play the game to win—so if heading the ball puts kids in danger, then soccer has to change the rules.

Preparing to Lose My Mind After Giving Birth

Thu, 2014-10-23 11:14
Putting a plan in place does not guarantee that you will have a postpartum mood disorder, or that you won’t. It does guarantee you will know how to get help if you need it.

For Trick or Treaters, Skip the Candy and Give Cash

Thu, 2014-10-23 07:46
A few houses hand out cash directly to kids. More often, families and dentists buy back the candy for cash. Some parents even haggle for the best stuff.

Pregnant, With ‘No Plans to Have Another Baby’ and No Ready Options

Wed, 2014-10-22 13:33
"I am a long time poster, but am here now under a different identity as it is much easier to ask for OB/GYN recommendations for having babies rather than terminating a pregnancy."

Diwali, Once Hidden, Now Lit Large

Wed, 2014-10-22 11:20
When my family and I immigrated in 1977, to be an Indian-American meant replacing curry with bologna and saris with sweaters, and celebrating Diwali invisibly. My daughter's life is very different.

Where Are the American Boy Dolls?

Wed, 2014-10-22 08:58
At the American Girl store, my 8-year-old son was enraptured by the historical dolls. Surely, there were boys in those times, boys who would have saved the day by using their wits or shown great courage in hard times. Where were they?

This Is Not Your Mother’s Marijuana Talk. So What Should We Say?

Tue, 2014-10-21 15:05
Marijuana is legal in some states and under some circumstances, and can now be munched and drunk as well as smoked. How does that change the way we talk about it with our kids?

The ‘Breaking Bad’ Action Figure Outrage-O-Rama

Tue, 2014-10-21 11:34
“Breaking Bad” action figures probably don't belong in your 6-year-old’s toy box. But you knew that, right?