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Conversation Starters for Beyond the Thanksgiving Table

Thu, 2014-11-20 09:41
Talking about gratitude and giving around the Thanksgiving table is a great time to start a new family tradition: jump starting better conversations every night.

It’s a Boy, and It’s Okay to Be Disappointed

Wed, 2014-11-19 11:17
When the ultrasound technician found that white blob between the legs of my baby on the computer screen, I cried.

Three Girls? ‘I Feel Sorry for Their Father’

Wed, 2014-11-19 11:17
Almost everywhere we go— a hike on a mountain trail, a restaurant, an art museum-- unsolicited comments about the same sex of my children follow.

Pregnant With a Boy? Even in 2014, Some Call That ‘Lucky’

Wed, 2014-11-19 11:16
I was pregnant: I didn’t want to engage people in a discussion on gender. I wanted to take a nap. Still, I was alarmed to hear repeatedly that it was somehow preferable to have a boy instead of a girl.

‘He’s Gone.’ A Daddy, Deployed

Tue, 2014-11-18 10:40
In this moment, just after their father has been deployed, I can't safeguard their hearts; I am unable to spare these tears. It's a powerless feeling, before the sun is up.

Even the Democratic Caucus Can Fail to Accommodate Pregnancy

Mon, 2014-11-17 15:48
Although it is primarily Democrats and President Obama who continue to push for the Pregnant Workers Fairness Act, a Democratic representative who is pregnant cannot get an exception on Democratic Caucus voting rules.

Quandary: Between Unknown Cousins and the Children’s Table, Thanksgiving Can Be Hard for Kids

Mon, 2014-11-17 13:08
Now is the moment to prepare children for Thanksgiving: show pictures of past gatherings, remind them of the names that go with faces and talk about things like interrupting, playing with younger cousins, new foods and appreciating gifts but not expecting them.

Lessons in Living While Dying, From Pop

Sun, 2014-11-16 07:19
My kids have learned a new vocabulary, including words like lymphoma, chemotherapy, radiation, tumor and bone marrow. But they have also learned something important about being flexible, helping out, keeping a sense of humor and taking care of their elders.

Cooking More Tacos and Looking for Recipes for Leftover Oatmeal

Fri, 2014-11-14 14:38
Chicken and dumplings. Shake and Bake pork chops. Baked potatoes. If it weren't for the night we're having chorizo, I'd be pretty sure I'd turned into my mother.

Dear Dr. Psych Mom: I’m Almost a Parent Myself, and My Parents Are Smothering Me

Fri, 2014-11-14 12:41
I am 30 years old, married and pregnant with our first child. My parents’ overprotectiveness worries me a lot, especially now that I’m going to be a mom.

Bittersweet Sixteen

Fri, 2014-11-14 08:02
There are lots of milestones as kids move through adolescence: 10, when you enter double digits; 13 when you become a teenager; 18 when you finish high school. But when you are a kid with a driver’s license and access to a car, 16 is a game changer.

Your Turn: A Weekend Thread, Open for Comments

Fri, 2014-11-14 07:55
Welcome to Motherlode’s weekly open thread. Do you have thoughts about the news this week, and how it affects families? A question to ask? A rant to share? This is your place. Go.

Adoptees Like Me ‘Flip the Script’ on the Pro-Adoption Narrative

Thu, 2014-11-13 13:19
I don’t know how to solve the broader problems with adoption, or even my own. But I’m relieved that more adoptees are finding a way to talk about the reality: not all adoptions end in rainbows and bubbly baby smiles.

To A.P. or Not to A.P., That Is the Question

Thu, 2014-11-13 10:49
Advanced Placement courses can be a real boon to students motivated by intellectual curiosity and a love of learning. But for students looking to please their parents or for those in pursuit of transcript padding and other false academic idols, A.P. courses can be an unpleasant and unhealthy slog.

When All Else Fails, Embryo Adoption Offers Hope

Wed, 2014-11-12 13:59
After four years of infertility and many failures, this little baby popsicle of an embryo was our best hope at finally becoming parents.

A Soon-to-Be Grandma, Ready to Learn

Wed, 2014-11-12 10:48
This spring, my older daughter announced that she was pregnant. And I realized almost immediately that I knew nothing about today's birthing or parenting issues. I had a lot of catching up to do.

This Veterans Day, Read (and Listen to) Family Stories

Tue, 2014-11-11 12:13
Military experience was once common. Many of us grew up surrounded by parents and family who had served. Now, military life seems removed from the everyday for many of us. Here, for Veteran's Day, stories of military family.

On Veterans Day, Offering Gratitude and Accepting It

Tue, 2014-11-11 08:40
When I told the man at the baggage counter that my husband was deployed, he immediately replied, "Thank you for your service." I didn't quite know how to respond.

Quandary: When the Tests Are Overwhelming, What’s Next?

Mon, 2014-11-10 16:07
Most schools conduct some form of standardized testing. What helps a child who finds the tests stressful, and when is the testing too much?

Our Real ‘Mommy’ (and ‘Daddy’) Problem: Your Children Are Your Problem

Mon, 2014-11-10 14:20
What happens when children are considered the adorable lifestyle choice of a nation of "mommies?" No one else needs to worry about the needs of those children—or of any children.