Monitor your activity level. Yes, you will always have a long to-do list. Discern what really needs to be done—and what can wait (so you can spend some time with your child).
Be clear about your values and why you have the values that you do. Kids can’t resist negative peer pressure if they don’t know what’s right—and what’s wrong.
Ask your co-parent what you can do to ease her or his stress level.
Know that your kids will get bored. It’s part of growing up. As their brains go through changes, children go through periods when they are able to easily find things to do—and times when they aren’t.
Follow your child’s lead on Halloween. If he or she wants to go trick-or-treating, find a safe way for this to happen. If your child isn’t interested in Halloween, don’t make a big deal of it.
When your child comes to you with a conflict, don’t do all the problem solving yourself. Encourage him or her to develop solutions. (Intervention may be appropriate, of course, if there is a danger of physical injury.)
Continue to show affection to teenagers by spending time with them—even if you’re not doing or talking about anything special.
Present your kids with a variety of options for activities and help them think about which ones best fit their interests.
Start a conversation with your family about communication. Do you all speak positively to each other? Do you trust each other and talk openly? What can you do to improve communication?
When you and your child disagree, do or say something to show that you still care.
Check in with your partner (and yourself!) periodically to assess whether you are balancing your work and family time the way you want to. List your priorities to help you be realistic about the things you value most.
Help your children practice coping skills when difficult situations arise.