By: Dr. Gene Roehlkepartain
Setting expectations for our kids is an ongoing challenge for parents. On the one hand, it’s easy to communicate what we expect. Yet that doesn't necessarily go far enough.Blog Image: FiveStar Rating: 0
Teach children to be responsible for their own behavior and to be considerate of others.
Be firm and fair, taking care not to overreact when rules are broken. Keep in mind that appropriate, consistent consequences will teach your child to accept responsibility for her or his actions, while harsh punishment will most likely cause resentment.
Encourage your kids to forgive others. Yes, they can still stand up for themselves, but a generous spirit is a forgiving spirit.
Remember your goal and purpose: you want to raise a child who succeeds in life. Knowing where you’re headed often helps you deal with the day-to-day routine.
Help your children find inspirational, positive role models.
When a disagreement occurs, work through only that problem. Don’t pull in other issues that may be bothering you.
Encourage an older sibling to mentor a younger sibling in something they know how to, like reading, learning left from right, or basic math. Compliment their work together, both learning and teaching.
If you are angry or frustrated with your child try lowering your voice—speak quietly and slowly and in a quiet place. Lowering your temperature will help lower theirs.
Even though disagreements are not fun (and can make your life more difficult), they mean that you’re raising a child who can make his or her own decisions.
Banish pessimistic phrases from your home. Instead of kids saying, “I can’t do it,” have them say, “I’ll figure out how to do it” and “I can do it.”
Keep a sense of humor about parenting.
Whenever you feel like you’re saying the same thing over and over, stop. What isn’t changing? What could you do differently so that you don’t feel like you’re in a rut?
By Amy Williams, Guest Blogger
Unfortunately, depression in children is real. The American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry estimates that 5 percent of all children suffer from depression.Blog Image: FiveStar Rating: 0
Greet your children’s friends when you see them, using the name or nickname they prefer. Ask how they’re doing.